Category: Rants and Raves

Brain Basics

The way you think changes the way you feel which influences the way you act, so what you think is important, however what makes you think the way you think?

Children are fantastic observers. As kids we are learning machines, constantly picking up new idea and information automatically. It just happens. There is a problem with this however. Due to


being young we only have a limited perspective by which to interpret the new information that comes at us. This means there is a high chance that we will interpret it slightly wrong.

These conclusions that we draw in our youth go into the mix of beliefs that we just ‘assume’ to be true and they operate as a foundation for our thinking as adults. This is fine when what we ‘assume’ is correct, but the emotional problems we have in life as adults can usually be traced back to the faulty conclusions we came to as children. This is why as adults we often act like children when we are ‘bumped’.

My process in counselling is to help you to ‘tease out’ the thinking that sits below the surface and find what faulty conclusions are in your blind-spot causing you grief. You may think “I would know if I was thinking things that are wrong” but that is just another faulty conclusion. The fact of the matter is that we don’t know half of what we think because most of it lies in our subconscious or at least in our blindspot.

The conclusions we come to about life in our young years serve as a foundation for our life!

Credit to D. Riddell and R. Cook for inspiration for this page.

Joel Young’s Views on Therapy

I wrote this in a LinkedIn group the other day but wanted to capture it here as a snapshot of my view on therapy as of the tenth day of July two thousand and fifteen.

I have trained in CBT and also trained counsellors in CBT. Over the last 10 years the model of CBT has changed dramatically and so has research around the effectiv Continue reading “Joel Young’s Views on Therapy”

Experience as a change agent.

The magic of small groups is experience.

You can learn information in a book, on the internet, at school, at church, at pizza hut. BUT, what really changes people is when information is applied and makes it into their hearts.

The longest 30cm in the world is the 30cm between you head and your heart.

Continue reading “Experience as a change agent.”

Truth Coaches, Reality and Change.

There is no doubt that we lie to ourselves on occasion. Sometimes deeply and very painfully. What then do we do about it? Reprogramming out deep thinking is possible but difficult. The ability to dispute our default thinking is an adult skill that many of us never obtain. How do we know what truth/reality is anyway?

The first question therefor is; What is the truth? This is a question of epistemology – Continue reading “Truth Coaches, Reality and Change.”