Marriage Counselling (Pre, Post, During)

The most complicated relationship on earth. I am not sure why, but it seems we often go into this thinking we are prepared and not realising that nothing can really prepare us. One of my passions is helping people maintain this difficult relationship.

I did the maths on what broken marriages cost the country in measurable figures. It came to about $1000 per working person, per year. I reckon if we spend just a fraction of that maintaining and preparing for this difficult but rewarding relationship it will pay dividends!

In reality they have never prepared for what lies ahead. In marriage two families try and live together from a totally different set of cultural assumptions. Every family is its own culture and needs to be treated as such.

 “What shall I do then?” - Upskill and become self aware!

If you invest just a fraction of what your wedding will cost into some premarital (or even better, 'pre engaged') counselling you will find yourself having much fewer surprises, and many more tools for dealing with the ups and downs of married life. There will still be struggles, but they will be resolved if you can identify what is your 'stuff', what are “echo's” and learn to negotiate instead of remaining in pretend agreement.

Marriage is an intense relationship and requires intense preparation, and intense skills.

What will make your marriage last the distance? I don't mean to be offensive but the statistics for marriages ending in divorce are terrible and those statistics are no different in the Church. Why do we let people get married without insisting they prepare first?

What will you do to make your marriage different? What will you do differently that will allow you to go the distance?

Marriage is a celebration of relationship - A safe place for intimacy within commitment. Take care of it, and it will be fun!


I have developed a marital preparation series for pre-married, pre-engaged, or even married's. I aim to provide you with a rock solid foundation on which to build their marriage. Contact me for details or if you have any questions. 

"The wise man built his house on the rock, but the foolish man built his house on the sand".

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Joel Young

Joel 04 Joel is passionate about equipping people to meet their potential by identifying blocks in their lives and minds.

Qualifications & Skills:

Bachelor in Counselling

Managing Director of New Insight - Counselling & Training.

2000+hrs of counselling & coaching.
1000+hrs of training/speaking/facilitation
10+ Years of Presenting Living Wisdom Life & Counselling Skills Schools

Authored hundreds of short workshops across a variety of applications. Experienced in strategic direction, finance, analysis, marketing and team management.

Anna Sanford

anna long sanford Anna is inspired by the diversity and complexity of humanity. She is passionate about people understanding themselves and others, and moving their relationship forward based on this basis. She enjoys giving visibility to that which is best about people. She desires to see individuals and teams apply and amplify these towards improved outcomes and greater work/life success and satisfaction.

Qualifications & Skills:

Bachelor in Health Science
Post Graduate Certificate in Youth Work
Strengths Finder Level 1 & 2 Gallup Accredited Coach

Strengths: Relator, Empathy, Woo, Positivity, Achiever, Strategic, Communication, Developer.

15 year career centered around understanding and working with diverse people groups including Engagement, Connection, Development, Training and Management.

David Sanders

davidOver the years I have honed my work and found I love working in areas such as Relationships, personal issues, God difficulties, trauma, depression, suicide, terminal illnesses and supervision.

Qualifications & Skills:

Diploma in Counsellling

10,000 Hours of counselling.
30 Years of experience in pastoring, counselling and communicating.

Richard Black

Richard BlackRichard is skilled in helping people find personal breakthrough and relationship success. He helps people strengthen their thinking, be proactive in relationships, and succeed with life. Richard has a sharp, analytical mind that helps people understand their situation and know how to move forward. He also has a great sense of humour that enables people to reflect on themselves and their relationships in a safe, encouraging environment.

Qualifications & Skills:

Bachelor of Arts
Bachelor of Divinity
Masters in Counselling (pending)
Trainer and supervisor of counselling interns and associates
Chair of Trust Board, New Wine NZ, (charitable organisation)
2000+ hours counselling
1000+ hours of training/speaking

Aaron Ironside

aaron Aaron is passionate about creating environments for teams to thrive and for leaders to grow. 'Talented people do not reach their potential' is a modern proverb Aaron wants to change. He is a change agent who thrives on helping others go to the next level.

Qualifications & Skills:

Master of Arts (Psychology)
Aaron has spent 20 years on radio, most notably as anchor of the Morning Pirates on Radio Hauraki. He has served his community locally as President of the Swanson Residents and Ratepayers  and nationally as a Board member of Promisekeepers NZ. He has held leadership positions in the radio industry, including Programme Director of the Life FM Network. Aaron is in demand as public speaker and stand-up comedian.

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