Survival Kits & Why We Do Dumb Stuff

As we come into this would we figure out how to cope with difficult situations and emotions by both copying the people around us and by inventing new ways. Unfortunately, we don’t always find the best way by default. This workshop is about primarily about becoming aware of your default survival strategies. It’s impossible to fight an


 invisible enemy. “The unexamined life is not worth living.” -Socrates

What Are Survival Kits?
*What we do with shame (Not grace!)
*The way we hide
*Our defaults
*Redundant coping skills
*Our old body guard that became our prison guard
*Our addictions

Q. What do I do, that I know I shouldn’t, but in the moment my emotions get the better of me?


Q. Where did I learn this behaviour?


Q. What feelings are involved?  (Search deeper than just anger, frustration, annoyed.)


Their False Promise
Survival Kits protect us from our UBF’s but hurt us and others in the process. You will live in reaction for your whole life if you don’t take the time to investigate what is behind your survival kits.prisonbruisedheart

“You have to feel it to heal it.”

Nothing changes until it becomes what it is.”    -Fritz Pearls

“If we don’t transform our pain we will most assuredly transmit it.”    -Richard Rohr

“What is the seal of freedom attained? No longer to be ashamed of oneself.” –Nietzche


1. Become aware of the survival kit or false comfort.   

My Survival Kit:________________________________


2. Stop using it long enough to feel what it’s hiding.  

UBF/Hurt/Feeling: __________________________


3. Find a grown up way of dealing with or finding comfort for the above feeling.

New Strategy: _________________________.


New Thoughts/Truths/Comforts/Assurances:




Eg: I yell, to hide from feeling unheard, instead I can learn to use consequences, negotiation skills, get therapy, find a way to accept being unheard (ie – “I can’t always be heard as I can’t control other peoples ears!” “Feeling unheard doesn’t mean I am unloved.”)

Joel Young

Joel 04 Joel is passionate about equipping people to meet their potential by identifying blocks in their lives and minds.

Qualifications & Skills:

Bachelor in Counselling

Managing Director of New Insight - Counselling & Training.

2000+hrs of counselling & coaching.
1000+hrs of training/speaking/facilitation
10+ Years of Presenting Living Wisdom Life & Counselling Skills Schools

Authored hundreds of short workshops across a variety of applications. Experienced in strategic direction, finance, analysis, marketing and team management.

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